I have noticed as of late that some things I am doing are causing havoc in the daily life of some.  One of them is my moving at the end of this month.  Over the last two and a bit years, I have moved into the following:

1) Moved out of home Ex and I shared and moved in with Walter (brother)

2) Moved out of Walter’s and moved into female friend’s home

3) Moved out of female friend’s home and into an apartment

4) Moved out of apartment in Campbell River, BC and moved to house on Daisy in Victoria, BC

5) Moved out of house on Daisy to living with long-time male friend (21 years)

6) And now moving out of friend’s place (where part of time spending in Shawnigan Lake) to moving to Sidney.

That is a lot of moving in two years.  I have decided that until I have my home built or buy a new home that I will not move again for some time.

In two of these moves (one still in progress), I have strained my friendships with friends and have realized that living with your friends should never be done.  Eventhough they are truly wonderful people and I still care for them and would do anything under the sun for them, our relationships will never be the same.

My words to all…Don’t live with your friends unless you truly know you can handle it.  If you can handle it, make sure boundaries are set up between you and friend (and friend’s family if there) right away or you may run into some issues.  Most of all (and I am one to talk sometimes) make sure a line of communication is always open.  If this is not in existence, then the situation will not work.

If situation not working out, try and make the best of the time you are there until one of you moves on.  Be respectful of each other as friends.  Don’t put the friend down behind their back.  This will only lead to hurt feelings on both sides.

Now with all said, this is what is happening in my life.  Just some words of advice to help others who may be thinking about moving in with friends.